| Does divorce = failure? |
One
of the
biggest
concerns
people
have is
that the
end of
their
marriage
is a
sign of
failure.
I can
assure
you that
this is,
in fact,
the
complete
opposite
of the
truth.
People
come
together
in life
to
accomplish
specific
things,
and when
the
"soul"
goal has
been
reached,
a
natural
pulling
away
from
that
relationship
occurs,
readying
us for
our next
challenge
and
growth
opportunity
in life.
You must
understand
that one
of
life’s
fundamental
laws is
that we
are
always
moving
towards
greater
personal
awareness
and life
achievement.
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Why did
Moreah
write
this book? |
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Married
at the
young
age of
17 and
divorced
three
times by
the age
of 29,
Moreah
became a
divorce
veteran.
Involved
in a
shockingly
brutal
and
seemingly
unforgivable
betrayal,
and an
abduction
of her
children,
by her
first
ex-husband,
she
launched
a
14-year
painful
battle
to
regain
access
to and a
relationship
with her
three
estranged
daughters.
These
experiences
started
Moreah
on a
compelling
journey
of
marriage
and
divorce,
leading
her to a
highly
successful
career
in
counseling
and
coaching.
Having
helped
couples
for 12
years to
make
clear
choices
about
their
relationships,
Moreah
is
determined
to
expose
the
myths,
untruths
and
debilitating
fears
that
surround
divorce.
Mastering
her own
destiny,
and
married
to one
man for
over 15
years,
Moreah
knows
how to
skillfully
navigate
you
through
what
will be
one of
your
most
life-changing
experiences.
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What
is the
first
step I
should
take
once I
have
decided
to
separate
or
divorce? |
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Communicate
your
feelings
that you
wish to
separate
or
divorce
to your
spouse.
Invite
them to
move
through
the
decision
you have
come to
consciously
and
caringly.
Make a
commitment
to treat
each
other
the way
you
would
like to
be
treated
throughout
the
process.
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At
what
point do
I tell
people I
am
separated
or
getting
a
divorce? |
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Once you
and your
partner
have had
the
opportunity
to
digest
and
integrate
the
impact
of this
life
altering
decision.
Communicate
with one
another
on whom
you
would
like to
share
the
information
with and
why.
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How
will
getting
a
divorce
impact
my kids? |
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That
depends
on your
ability
to care
and
communicate
with one
another
about
the
divorce
process.
Remaining
open and
honest
with one
another
about
the
emotional
confusion
you will
naturally
feel,
prevents
your
children
from
feeling
as
though
they
have to
protect
either
parent
or
choose
sides.
Eliminating
blame
and
maintaining
respect
will
impact
your
children
most
positively.
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What
can I do
to
minimize
the cost
of
getting
divorced? |
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Educating
yourself
on your
financial
situation
is the
first
step
towards
being
able to
come to
a
mutually
beneficial
financial
division.
Try to
minimize
the use
of
lawyers
to
negotiate
fair
settlements.
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Why
is
getting
a
divorce
so
scary? |
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Divorce
can feel
scary
due to
the fear
of the
unknown.
What
will my
financial
future
be like?
Will I
ever
find a
new
mate?
Will it
wreck my
kid’s
lives?
Will
people
think of
me as a
failure?
As a
married
person
you have
adopted
a role
and have
identified
yourself
as a
spouse.
You have
learned
to cling
to
another
for your
sense of
self and
safety
and with
a
divorce
comes
the
surrendering
of an
identity
which is
not you.
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